THE EXHILARATING RETREAT

I'm very happy to announce my upcoming co-leadership with Ilse Noppen.
This project provides me with a lot of sparkles and it lift my energy up to the next level to empower together with Ilse our upcoming tribe. 

We're organizing a retreat for women that have already established their professional development, it's about women that has entrepreneurship in her veins. 
During this retreat we both will empower them to be stronger connected with their essence and their inner leadership...

Find above the flyer and feel free to share this to other women that could benefit of this exceptional experience where they will belong to a WOMEN community.

More details will be announced in March 2016.

Sending love,
Ilse & Arsenia

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Today's headline: mental insights

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I would like to share with you some mental insights that helps me with my leadership journey.
It confirms strongly how coaching, martial arts and leadership are part of my kokoro (heart) quest. I thought it might help you as well in your journey.

When competing all the “mental game” is about not thinking about winning and not losing either; it’s about staying in the present. We train to connect to our peaceful strength,  where the heart connects everything through our energy canals. This is something you achieve through many hours and years of practice looking to your own mirror and do your best.
If you’re pure and connected to yourself you can overcome the false mind, the realm of the ego
(4 poisons: fear, doubt, surprise and confusion).

When we co-lead it’s the same. It’s not about starting to think about the family issues, kids, being hungry, party, dinner with friends,…
It's about daring to suspend, staying in the present with the people around us, within their spaces, ours and “the space”.
The precious thing in co-leadership is that we’re not alone, we have a co-leader that is there to complement our energy, back up if needed. He's there to empower our impact together in the room.

In competition you also need a clear mind & commitment.
It’s about caring first about what you need to be in your best shape; your environment, your health, your food through a day competition and those that followed the upcoming months and years. Through polishing yourself through practices your body, spirit and mind are assimilating the movements so afterwards during the competition your body moves and reacts instinctively.
You don’t have time to analyse and start to have a philosophical chit chat with yourself about what is the best move once you’re competing. If you do so you lose and give a nice opportunity to your opponent.

In leadership we also practice, explore, experiment and once we’re on the stage, you play with it.
You use your accordion panel with your different IAM types, see the different screens in one, stay connected with your partner, sail smoothly and sometimes not, stay and be sharp in your responses.

I wish you good luck to tune in with the different partitions in different spaces, explore the paradoxes and polish your personal shape of your leadership style.

Below an interesting video (EN) where you can see this process of mental preparation, commitment of my fan Naoko Eiga in order to be the captain of the Japanese team at the WKC 2003.

 

Today's headline: Rising strong and connect with your vulnerability

Today I feel the urge to share some new insights I'm coming cross through my leadership journey.
I can describe it as a cyclone with a lot of life cycles appearing in my current existence. 
A lot of things are going through my body, mind and heart and there’s more to come!  
It's fascinating and on the same time it's scary too. What I'd like about scariness is the beauty to let it go and this is honestly a precious stretch for me. 

By doing this I can bravely fail as a queen, connect with my vulnerability, recover smoothly & in an awkwardly way and that’s ok too.

Besides the cyclone I'm also creating more lightness and I'm seeking to have more a Peter Pan kind of spirit presence in my life and that makes me smiling and give confidence in my heart.

Like I have been remembered Yesterday, Co-leadership is not about me; it's about US!
It’s about my precious "co- colleague" and myself leading from different places in different spaces.
It's about: connection, trust, lean in, being aligned, being tuned, clearing assumptions, creating boundaries, intuition, naming what we need from each other and from ourselves and much more...

What I learned about my last co-leadership is to stay grounded and connected like a solid rock further be prepared when un expecting behaviour is co-created. 
To be aware of what triggers our values, remaining detached of those assumptions around those values and bringing our attention back to the present.
It's crucial to share our own different "energy levels" during the co-leadership, this to prevent to activate our wildly "reptile brain" and loose our partner in the middle of our adventure by either withdrawing, fighting or by having a short circuit.

I learned to re-design the alliance whenever we needed and claim our space by naming what we need. I have been remembered to stay in the moment and keep connected with my co-leader whatever happened and improvise with the flow.

A re-direction of thoughts moved us from a low energy dynamic perspective to a more stable balanced flow. We did our best and succeed with our magnificent failures. I'm sending a lot of gratitude for those leanings to my co-leader partner.

Being vulnerable is being courage and reinforcing your values as a leader.
I will fiercely continue this path by being crystal clear and sharp with my words. I also reach out for help to all the bluebirds and other leadership tribe friends to keep challenging me when it's needed.
As Tolkien mentioned: " Pursuing it with eager feet, until it joins some larger way, where many paths and errands meet. And whither then? I can not say"...

For those that are ready to empower yourself, to recognise your capacity, to lead in all areas of your life, then I strongly recommend you the "Co-Active Leadership program"